Post-pone that Transfer App!

Hello Folks,

It seems since getting back to school I’ve done quite a few posts on college advice for first years. Well I’m going to try to put it on ice for a little while but before I do, I’m going to give one more piece of advice.

This is for the unhappy ones. Bored, or lonely, or are simply positive they just don’t fit in. You’re ready to transfer. Certain that the problem is the university, and sometimes it is. Often however, (and I’m not bashing you) it’s that you haven’t pushed yourself out to find your niche.

My College Sucks Big Time
You might be worried about your protecting your scholarship, or not getting caught up in the partying or even overwhelmed by clubs. But listen, I promise you won’t regret it. Go out and find one club to get involved in. One club, or team, or organization.
Devote yourself to it. Get to know the members. Learn something new from them, take on a little responsibility. No growth or good can happen in the comfort zone. Finding a small passion can change your entire outlook on where you are and why. You will be bored if you hang out in your room constantly looking at YouTube videos. You will be lonely if you’re constantly texting friends from home and going to McDonald’s for dinner. You will not fit in if you don’t try.

I promise your university isn’t going to snatch away your scholarship after one semester, and part of college is learning to balance. You can’t learn to balance if all you do is attend class, do homework, sleep and occupy your room. Making friends is great. You might’ve made a few already, but even making friends won’t always make you feel attached to a university. You need to empower yourself, and see yourself grow there. That’s what will make you feel at home, like there you can do anything. The bigger schools are always going to have more parties and bigger sporting events. So while you’re moping about that, remember that at smaller schools you usually have more power as a student and more one on one attention from professors and advisors.

I’m not asking you to go join five clubs, stop doing your homework, bash other schools or to stay all four years at a school you despise. But I do dare you to stay one or two semesters where you truly try to engage in something you might be interested in. You may be surprised at how different things can turn out.

Best of luck,
-E

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I’ll Ripen on the Way

Hello folks,

You might not know this about me, but  I am incredibly impatient. If I was the local farmer, you’d buy the imported stuff because I’d never wait for the vegetation to ripen. Green bananas and coconut sized watermelon.

Last week one of my friends was discussing how she’d held back freshman year, tested the water before she dove in. Her and another friend chatted about the benefits of taking in the scenery before venturing too far out into the woods. I thought about myself and my freshman year as my club advisor tapped my shoulder and asked me to take the stage and make an announcement to the new freshman class.

I gawked at her for a minute at the irony of the situation, and made my way to the microphones. This is where my impatience had gotten me. Standing on a stage at the beginning of my sophomore year during opening ceremony asking the first years to please remember to sign up for Day of Service. Plugging in a bit about sisterhood and seeing the area and an added incentive.

You see this is a huge leap for me. While, Sitting, Waiting, Wishing has never been my theme song, I used to be chronically quiet, as in I didn’t speak when I was younger. I never slept the night before a presentation. I never volunteered to be first, to be the voice of a group. I didn’t ask, or share my opinion. I was silent.
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Now I’m far from the little girl I was. I love presentations, I am uncomfortable not being the leader and my general motto is what doesn’t kill us, or Would Hillary Clinton do it? These past two weeks, I’ve been so pushed out of my comfort zone, I’ll probably have to start building a new one.

I’ve forced my way from Vice President of a club, or professional head nodder, as I sometimes refer to it as, to President. I’m leading the biggest event I’ve ever been put in charge of. I did an improv skit in front of roughly 150 people, and I spoke alone in front of the entire freshman class, their parents, my classmates and the President of the University as well as her cabinet.

It’s possible I’m a little in over my head, but who makes history without facing the possibility of drowning for a second? I’ll let you know how this turns out.

xoxo,
-E

5 Things I wish I’d Known

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Hello Lovelies,

In honor of the class of 2016, here are five things I wish I’d known during first year orientation.

#1 Don’t be afraid of the upper classmen. They genuinely want to know you, and impress their knowledge upon you. They’re all just looking for a little freshman baby bird to take under their wing. Grab the girl from down the hall and go find out if one of you is that bird. Save yourself some time and some embarrassment, and probably score some party invites.

#2 Just Do It. Not that, get your mind out of the gutter, geeze. But the freshman class adventure trip white water rafting? Go. The day of volunteering with your peers? Go. Scoping out downtown and sampling the best Mexican Restaurant in the city? Go. These opportunities are set out for us for a reason. They’re meant to take you out of your comfort zone. They’re designed to force you to engage and interact. Don’t sit out. Some of my best friends were made after we were done huffing about these events.

#3 Take pictures of everything. No, you don’t want to be that weird kid with the camera glued to her palm, gazing up at the student union like it’s the statue of liberty. However, these are the first moments of some great friendships down the road, document them!

#4 Don’t form a clique the first five minutes on campus. Sure, you’re both wearing American Eagle jeans and trendy pastel tops, and hey you might end up being besties for life, but give everyone a chance. Sit with different people at lunch. Get to know the girls from the other halls. Leave all the doors to friendship open, at least for a week or two. You will not regret it.

#5 ( I learned this one from friends) Don’t find a boyfriend your first weekend out, aka your first weekend on campus ( or off ). Let yourself explore, wander and figure what you want. Hey, I’m not saying not to take anyone’s number yet, or that the guy chatting you up at the tailgate isn’t Mr. Right, but give yourself a chance to find out first. Mr. Wrongs can be found in all he right places.

xoxo,
-E

Bonus: I already knew this one, but I’ve noticed a few class of 2016ers who might not: Do Not. Do Not Do Not. I repeat do not smoke in your room the very first night and hour after your parents have dropped you off. #1 My God girl, you just got here. #2 What a dumb ass, take that shit outside! #3 Seriously? It’s Barely 11, no one is even asleep yet…

Decadent Dorm Desk Decor

Hello dearests,

Like many of you, I can’t wait to get back to school. In the mean time I’ve been looking for unique dorm room inspiration. Right now I’m focused on desk areas.  Here are a few of my favorites from across the web.




What’s inspiring you in dorm decor these days? Leave it below!

xoxo,
-E

1 Month & Counting

Hello Lovelies,

Today is a special day.  Today marks one month until I am back at Uni. In honor of this glorious day I have a few college tips for the unassuming college freshman.
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#1 Pack More Than One.  Maybe I’m being stereotypical, maybe I’m lazy

photoor high-maintence. Late at night, during those hours they say everything you consume goes straight to your hips, the last thing I ever felt like doing was washing dishes. Furthermore, on a Friday night, when I began my going-out routine, nothing spoiled it faster than dirty towels. Sure laundry has to be done eventually, and dishes… well I learned the hard way RA’s aren’t joking about wash or get tossed. So do yourself a favor and don’t be so skimpy on the bits and pieces. You’ll be thankful junior year when you move into an apartment and have more than one fork.P.s. Do start saving your quarters now…

#2 Do make time for yourself.  Roommates, hallmates, friends, club-members… It’s easy to get caught up hanging out with others constantly. It’s fun, they’re hysterical, they have a car, you may have adopted a “they like to drink! So do we!” mentality. However… eventually, it will take its toll. I promise. Wether it’s a morning jog, an after class cup of coffee, or a late night soap opera you’re too embarrassed to watch with your usual crew. This may be the difference between happy healthy relationships with the new people you meet, and biting your roommate’s head off after their third harry-potter marathon.

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 #3 Soften the Blow This one was a big one for me. Most people change during their first year of college, hopefully for the better. You may become the leader you always wanted to be, you may become more adventurous. You may transform from a lazy bum allergic to treadmills to an active human (good for you!) Who knows, the main point is you’re going to change at least a little when you enter such a new atmosphere. Your family might have a hard time wrapping their head around the new you. So I strongly suggest keeping them updated on your life. Picked up a new hobby? Tell them about it. And when they say for the fifth time, “But you never ate sushi beforeee!!” take a deep breath, and perhaps offer to get some lobster rolls for lunch next week.

That’s all for now.

xoxo,
-E

Have some tips you couldn’t live without freshman year? Leave them below! It’s only polite.