Advice from a seasoned terrible traveler?
Advice from a seasoned terrible traveler?
Hello Ladies and Gents,
I’m curious. Maybe it’s because I’m finally opening up to the idea of being in a relationship again, maybe it’s because his best friends at college keep accidentally inviting me to their events on facebook, and I can see what music they’re listening to on spotify, for whatever reason I firmly decided today that I’m no longer angry with my ex.
We dated for nearly five years, so am I completely over him? Not quite, but I’m getting there. We haven’t spoken in 8 months, it’s definitely been an adjustment, learning to live without my other half but I’ve gotten pretty good at it honestly. I feel independent and strong on my own. I feel proud of me and everything I’ve done, and how I’ve changed over the past several months.
So I guess what I’m wondering… what I’m curious of… is when you’ve reached this point. When you no longer hate your ex, when you can finally fathom another relationship without being sick thinking of the inevitable impending heartache, can you contact them? Have you? Do you?
I don’t mean to be friends, or meet up and discuss the past. Perhaps just a message, you don’t even need a response to. An acknowledgement that your anger has subsided, that you’re grateful for the relationship you had and understand why things couldn’t work out, and that it’s okay.
Do you think it’s opening a can of worms? Is it cathartic? What happened when you did it? Do you regret it?
What’s your take? I’m curious.
This week, if you were to peer over my shoulder, this is what you’d find me reading:
#1 The Beauty Department’s New Nail How To
#2 J.D. Salinger’s Nine Stories
#3 The Menu at Gobble Cakes!
#4 This Tip at Smart Pretty and Awkward
#5 This Elbow Patch DIY from A Beautiful Mess
#6 Pretty much anything on Thought Catalog
& as an Added bonus: You’ll find me listening to this as I pound through my work week:
In honor of the class of 2016, here are five things I wish I’d known during first year orientation.
#1 Don’t be afraid of the upper classmen. They genuinely want to know you, and impress their knowledge upon you. They’re all just looking for a little freshman baby bird to take under their wing. Grab the girl from down the hall and go find out if one of you is that bird. Save yourself some time and some embarrassment, and probably score some party invites.
#2 Just Do It. Not that, get your mind out of the gutter, geeze. But the freshman class adventure trip white water rafting? Go. The day of volunteering with your peers? Go. Scoping out downtown and sampling the best Mexican Restaurant in the city? Go. These opportunities are set out for us for a reason. They’re meant to take you out of your comfort zone. They’re designed to force you to engage and interact. Don’t sit out. Some of my best friends were made after we were done huffing about these events.
#3 Take pictures of everything. No, you don’t want to be that weird kid with the camera glued to her palm, gazing up at the student union like it’s the statue of liberty. However, these are the first moments of some great friendships down the road, document them!
#4 Don’t form a clique the first five minutes on campus. Sure, you’re both wearing American Eagle jeans and trendy pastel tops, and hey you might end up being besties for life, but give everyone a chance. Sit with different people at lunch. Get to know the girls from the other halls. Leave all the doors to friendship open, at least for a week or two. You will not regret it.
#5 ( I learned this one from friends) Don’t find a boyfriend your first weekend out, aka your first weekend on campus ( or off ). Let yourself explore, wander and figure what you want. Hey, I’m not saying not to take anyone’s number yet, or that the guy chatting you up at the tailgate isn’t Mr. Right, but give yourself a chance to find out first. Mr. Wrongs can be found in all he right places.
Bonus: I already knew this one, but I’ve noticed a few class of 2016ers who might not: Do Not. Do Not Do Not. I repeat do not smoke in your room the very first night and hour after your parents have dropped you off. #1 My God girl, you just got here. #2 What a dumb ass, take that shit outside! #3 Seriously? It’s Barely 11, no one is even asleep yet…
You may have noticed a peppy little counter in the bottom corner of ECE that exclaims (currently) 8 more days until Move In Day! I am pumped. I’ve started packing, Do It Yourself-ing, and making to-do lists galore. What I haven’t prepared for is that one freaking girl that gets on my last damn nerve.
She’s outwardly perfect, of course. In her vineyard vines frock and madden girl wedges, not one hair is out of place. She’s also one of these types that doesn’t need an invitation to come and have lunch/dinner with you. She comes, plops her tiny ass down, and starts probing into your life. Asking questions and then chuckling to herself after your every word. Imagine that scene in Mean Girls when Cady considers how things would be handled in animal world and she launches herself across the table at Regina. Yeah, that’s how I feel about this one.
Now Finally I know how to handle her. :) Enjoy my friends, enjoy.
Also, beware of adult language and topics.
Hello Ladies and Gents,
They say you should never go to bed mad, I’ve never really agreed with this. Sometimes I think it’s the best time to go to bed. Often times I wake up in a better mood, refreshed, renewed, revitalized… other similar “r” words. However, there are times… especially after you’ve moved back in with your mother for the summer post your first year at college… that going to bed mad really doesn’t help since when you wake up the problem will still be there.
Inspired by this girl’s late night moodiness, here a few of my favorite pieces from across the net which will hopefully leave me and you both in a better mood for bedtime.
How To Be the Guest that Gets Invited Back : This article is an easy to follow guide on how not to be the house guests the hosts are ggossiping about behind closed doors, or rolling their eyes at every time you turn your head. From parties to pool days, weekend stayovers to casual visits, this list has you covered.
Smart, Pretty & Awkward : A tangible guide to being a better you. I always feel like I’m a couple to-do lists and pencil skirts away from the oval office when I browse this website.
Teen Takeover: Three NJ teens have created a petition to have the first female moderator at a presidential debate. Between these lovely ladies, the awesome young women behind the photo-shopping petitions, the feirce five and the other teen women taking gold at the olympics, teens are taking over. As I finish up the last 5 months of my teenhood, these young women are making me proud and hopeful for our future.
Adventures in Fratland : I’ve never left this tumblr without a smile. Nuff’ said.
So there you go. Just a few of my cyber-stops on my journey to nixing a bad mood.
I could not help but share this link. In case you missed it The Beauty Department posted the most clever DIY touch up kit. It’ll work no matter how itty-bitty your clutch is for going out. I’d dare say, it would even easily fit in your front pocket if you’re going casual in your favorite short-shorts.
Here’s the link. All you need is a spare contact case, which you can usually get free with your contact cleaner. I know I have about a half-dozen in my vanity. Leave the clunky foundation and blush cases at home and give this a try!
Enjoy Lovelies! And awesome post TBD. :)