Post-pone that Transfer App!

Hello Folks,

It seems since getting back to school I’ve done quite a few posts on college advice for first years. Well I’m going to try to put it on ice for a little while but before I do, I’m going to give one more piece of advice.

This is for the unhappy ones. Bored, or lonely, or are simply positive they just don’t fit in. You’re ready to transfer. Certain that the problem is the university, and sometimes it is. Often however, (and I’m not bashing you) it’s that you haven’t pushed yourself out to find your niche.

My College Sucks Big Time
You might be worried about your protecting your scholarship, or not getting caught up in the partying or even overwhelmed by clubs. But listen, I promise you won’t regret it. Go out and find one club to get involved in. One club, or team, or organization.
Devote yourself to it. Get to know the members. Learn something new from them, take on a little responsibility. No growth or good can happen in the comfort zone. Finding a small passion can change your entire outlook on where you are and why. You will be bored if you hang out in your room constantly looking at YouTube videos. You will be lonely if you’re constantly texting friends from home and going to McDonald’s for dinner. You will not fit in if you don’t try.

I promise your university isn’t going to snatch away your scholarship after one semester, and part of college is learning to balance. You can’t learn to balance if all you do is attend class, do homework, sleep and occupy your room. Making friends is great. You might’ve made a few already, but even making friends won’t always make you feel attached to a university. You need to empower yourself, and see yourself grow there. That’s what will make you feel at home, like there you can do anything. The bigger schools are always going to have more parties and bigger sporting events. So while you’re moping about that, remember that at smaller schools you usually have more power as a student and more one on one attention from professors and advisors.

I’m not asking you to go join five clubs, stop doing your homework, bash other schools or to stay all four years at a school you despise. But I do dare you to stay one or two semesters where you truly try to engage in something you might be interested in. You may be surprised at how different things can turn out.

Best of luck,


Lesbians, Pillow-fights & Husband Hunts

Hello Ladies & Gents,

You may or my not know that I attend a single-sex private liberal arts university in VA. It’s been amazing growing as a young woman and leader, becoming more confident and meeting some absolutely wonderful new long-lost sisters, it hasn’t come without its’ trials. Mainly; facing the myths surrounding women’s college.

Just last week a dinner with a friend and some family turned into dispelling tired assumptions about my educational choices. If we aren’t all butch lesbians, we’re bible-thumpers, or boy crazy girls who just had to separate ourselves to focus on our education.  (insert unavoidable eye roll here)

“We are not a girls’ school without men; we are a women’s college without boys.”

Contrary, the women I know didn’t choose a single sex education due to the distraction of the male physic, sorry guys. We don’t have an abnormally high number of LGBT students, and while some students do have faith most aren’t wearing an iron chastity belt; or at least she didn’t choose her higher education based on it. Here are some more myths about women’s colleges.

Personally, I made the choice of a top-notch private single-sex university because of the educational rigor, the high graduation rates, the excellent student-teacher ratio, the sisterhood, traditions, and the many success stories of the alumnae. The list goes on, even more so now that I’ve finished my first year of college and experienced some of the unexplainable joys of a single-sex university.

Sorry for the rant, but next time you come across a young woman who has made the decision to attend a single-sex university please do not insult her intelligence by bringing up one of these ignorant assumptions.


P.S. Thanks for listening, but don’t stop there! Do you attend a single-sex uni? Tell ECE about it! Have you run across one of these myths? How’d you handle it? Do you have questions about women’s colleges? Don’t be afraid to ask!

Why do you care?

Hello Ladies and Gents,
American flag flies in the U.S.
Something you may not know about me: I’ve been interested in politics for a while now, father back than I can remember. One question I’ve been asked more times than I care to count, is “Why do I care?”

With an ample amount of self-control, I don’t roll my eyes. Excuses are exchanged: everyone’s corrupt, the president is an icon these days, it makes no difference etc…  I can’t say the lack of consideration doesn’t make me a little sad.

By all means, I’m not suggesting everyone should major in poli-sci, teevo cspan and memorize the Constitution word for word. However, do take the responsiblity to educate yourself on the issues at hand. I care because my life is at stake, and my future children’s life, and so on. I want my future daughter to have all the opportunities that I have had, and will have and then some. I want to be in charge of my body and I want to be protected, but not controlled.

Our votes matter and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Being religious, in the military or raised in the South does not automatically spell out republican. Similarly, being a minority, or middle class does not automatically designate a democrat. Learn the issues and how they affect you, browse both candidates websites, listen to them both speak and vote smart because you’re worth it.  This isn’t a decision you have to debate with your parents and loved ones, everyone’s vote should be their own, made free of criticism.

I care. Do you?


Rory Reading Challenge

Hello Lovelies,

First I will confess. I absolutely love Gilmore Girls. When the series ended I was completely distraught. Reruns came on abc family and if I was going to be working late, I made sure to leave the tv on set to the correct channel. If I didn’t, abc family would see the low traffic during GG and cancels the reruns. It would obviously be all my fault, betraying Stars Hollow. Anyways, since then I have gained possesion of the entire series, so all is well, thank you for your concern.

You’re looking for the point. I’m getting to it, I promise. Geeze, can’t a girl set the stage? Okay, well having the information above you can imagine my excitement when I came across the Rory Gilmore Reading Challenge on Smart, Pretty and Awkward (see blogroll ).  I was thrilled, and I think you will be too. It’s a terribly long list, but hey you’ve got a month left of summer, what can you knock out? Lets try together!

Here’s the link (Here I am!)

I figure any time you’re becoming more like Rory (minus that whole having an affair with a married man thing) you’re becoming a better you. Enjoy!