I’ve got a bit of news. Tomorrow night I have a dinner date with a guy I’ve been talking to the past few weeks (starting sometime after my computer jumped off the table to its’ death). He’s tall, dark and handsome, has an awesome sense of humor, his family is normal, he’s a gentlemen, and he goes to a top-notch university. Yes, I’m also concerned this is too good to be true. For now it’s a summer fling, but who knows. However, this got me thinking. With only a month left of summer I thought what better a time to discuss the whirlwind year I’ve had dating, and offer a bit of advice to the class of 2016.
Like I said last year was a whirlwind. I went from being in a million year long amazing relationship to devastatingly heartbroken, to sexy and single and everything in between. Here’s a little of what I learned…
If you’re in a long distance relationship: You’re a priority, and so is he/she. Sometimes, (key word some times) y’all will have to turn down going out with the new gang to skype each other. You need to devote time to them just like before, and vice versa, if this isn’t happening, your ldr simply will not work. Believe me, I’ve been there.
About the cutie you just met on the dance floor: Only give him your number if you actually want him to text you (and you want to text back) Sure it’s an ego boost when he messages you that night, but it’s a huge downer for him when you ignore all his messages and giggle with your friends about it. Dance with him, make-out a bit if you feel so inclined, but at the end of the night be honest. Heck, in the middle of the night if you aren’t feeling it be honest! You’ll probably never see him again anyways. YOLO right?
About the hot waiter/volunteer fireman who just left his number on your receipt: Leave your number, but when you plan to meet up, pick a public place in the middle of the day. I chose coffee on campus. You have somewhere to be if it turns out bad. He doesn’t know where you live if he turns out to be a stalker, and you can say lets grab lunch if it goes really well.
Extras: If you really like the catch you took to formal, don’t play hard-to-get high school-esque games, especially if he’s already put himself out there. Enjoy being single in college. Never waste a night at the frats dancing with the wrong guy. Beware of the jacks during kings. Facebook stalking a relationship status is okay, (you may save yourself from being the other woman) but don’t learn his life story. Take chances but always be safe.